Yesterday, a man said those four magic words every woman wants to hear.

Yes, I said “four”.

“What can I do?”

It was followed by me saying several silent prayers of gratitude.

“Oh, dear God, thank you so much for bringing this person into my life!”

“Oh, Santa, it’s just what I always wanted!  This is the best Christmas ever!”

“Thank you, Universe!  You nailed it!”

I really don’t think men have any idea how EPIC that one simple question is.  Both of my marriages would have been saved with a timely “What can I do?” followed by appropriate action.  (Note, I said “timely”.  There’s a statute of limitations on that shit, I’m sure of it.)

One of my best friends has been married for well over twenty years and I’ve seen her husband pull some pretty douchey moves.  One day, I finally asked her “Why do you stay with this guy?”

Her answer made perfect sense.  “Because he’s great in the sack, has sex with me every night, and when I’m upset he simply asks “What can I do?”  I tell him, he does it, and it’s all good.”

Ladies and gentlemen, as far as I’m concerned, that’s the secret to a perfect relationship right there!

“What can I do?” can apply to everything.

The answers to “What can I do?” can include such things as:

“Pull your head out of your ass.”

“Take the midnight feeding so I can get some sleep before tomorrow’s business meeting.”

“Hold my hand.”

“Give me $60 and an hour so I can go get a facial and some me time.”

“Proofread this blog for me so I can work on next month’s promotional flyer.”

“Make dinner and bathe the kids in the evening so I can spend a couple hours every night working on this business I’m trying to start.”

“Pick up a pizza and a Jason Statham movie on the way home.”

“Do that thing with your tongue again.”

My point here is saying “I love you” is nice but asking “What can I do?” and then doing it, beats the hell out of a lip-service “I love you” any day.

This week’s words of wisdom:

Women who take action, who have high aspirations, who make things happen, aren’t looking for the partner who will give us sweet nothings.  We’re looking for the one who asks “What can I do?”

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